7 Swinger Secret Signs You Have To Know!

It doesn’t matter if you are new to ENM, Swinging or any other type of open relationship these are 7 swinger secret signs that you have to know and look out for (trust us, they get easier to spot once you know these). You never know where or when you might come across your next great lifestyle connection so let’s look at 7 swinger secret signs and a bunch of lesser known ones that can help you make that new connection.

Jewelry Pieces – The Black Ring

Most likely one of the most globally recognized symbols out there is the Black Ring. When it is worn on the right hand ring finger that is a strong indication that the person wearing it is in some sort of open relationship dynamic and we have found these people to be very open to conversation. 

From experience we suggest an opening line such as “that’s a nice ring, does it have a specific meaning?” This open ended inquiry allows the wearer to engage, or not, but will definitely start a conversation that has possibilities!

There are also lesser known lifestyle jewelry pieces out there that have recently popped up and are trying to be a recognized symbol of an open relationship or that could be an example of one of the swingers secret signs. If you are looking for a piece to add to your own collection we suggest trying out a few and seeing which one best suits you but keep in mind the more widely known it is the better your chances of being noticed.

Upside Down Pineapple: The Secret Meaning

Pineapples have recently become VERY trendy and for good reason, for many an upside down one is one of the swingers secret signs! You will see them everywhere and a quickly becoming mainstream meaning of an upside down pineapple is that it is one of the secret signs of being a swinger or someone in the ENM lifestyle. 

It is not clear how this started but many say it was first seen on mainstream cruise ships on people’s stateroom doors as an indicator of being a swinger or being into wife-swapping. 

Upside down pineapples can now be found on numerous items such as clothing, accessories (like sunglasses as an example), and even on unique jewelry. So next time you are at the grocery store and you see someone with a pineapple turned upside down in their shopping cart… you might want to acknowledge them with a wink or a hello!

One final thought on this, just because someone is wearing a trendy pineapple accessory or clothing item out in the “wild” does not necessarily mean they are showing one of the swingers secret signs. Approach with caution and let your gut tell you if your intuition is correct!

Front lawn decoration

There are tales of lore that garden gnomes placed in the front gardens of a house are a sign that those that live there are swingers… We have a hard time believing this one when it comes to what are swinger secret signs! But for some this is one of those swingers secret signs so we are putting it on this list!

Another front lawn decoration that is said to be one of the swinger secret signs is Pampas grass in the front gardens. From our research this may be more of a thing in the UK than other parts of the world and we have even seen that sales of Pampas grass due to its connection to swingers has declined as people avoid it so they do not get misrepresented.

Are these two front yard decorations swinger secret signs in your part of the world?

How do cruise ship swingers identify themselves?

As we stated above upside down pineapples got their start, from what we understand, on cruise ships as a way to indicate that a person or couple were swingers. We have seen multiple articles and stories of people wearing the upside down pineapple on their clothing or as a pair of earrings on cruise ships in the hopes of making a new playmate friend. But more so its the posting of an upside down pineapple on a state room that shows other cruisers they swinger secret signs while aboard.

Is there a secret handshake?

Short answer – NO! Can you imagine how many variations there would be and how creepy some would look and feel! An ongoing joke that we hear at clubs, events and parties is that “we need a secret handshake” but the reality is that none exist, and we think for good reason!

Hot Tubs – Really?

Short Answer – YES! While not 100% guaranteed the presence of a hot tub and certain decorations around it like “bathing suits not allowed” is a very strong swinger secret sign. You will find that as your ENM circle of friends grows you will find many have a hot tub and its always open for a dip if you visit. Is there much more out there as sexy as hot water, jets and being naked?

How Did You Meet? Friends of Friends… 

I just used this one the other day… “So how do you know the host?” Answer: Friends of Friends! When an ambiguous relationship connection is given it can sometimes be one of the swinger secret signs. Why? Well you can’t say you are in the same club, in case the person asking is as well, and you can’t say from a sports event for the same reason! Friends of friends is a simple non committal answer that gives LOTS of leeway in how the connection exists – so listen for that as a swinger secret sign in the future! 

Conclusion

All of the above and none of the above can be made out to be one of the swinger secret signs. At all times your best judgment and sometimes a direct question is always the best way to find out if the person you are talking to or think is really in the ENM lifestyle.